The Pronoun Discussion

If you are into proper speaking and not sounding confusing and you took school VERY seriously then you will cringe too. Times are changing I get it. However, times shouldn't change so much that our pronouns go out the window!

While gathered with family at Easter this past Sunday, I noticed...actually I've noticed it before but I've chosen to keep my mouth shut. Perhaps a practice I should practice more often. Anyway, I've noticed a certain family member referring to his girlfriend as "them" or "they". HUH???? Why is he not using...."she" or "her", is what I would think to myself. I would also think, this is cringe-worthy to listen to, such a incorrect and confusing way to word things. I realize this next sentence may offend some but I'm entitled to my opinion...I'm sick of the gender neutral trend we are currently in. It's maddening! It's okay for girly stuff and boyish stuff to exist! It's okay! I mean what is going to be next? Are we going to have to refrain from calling a duck, a duck?

In case you aren't following, here's a couple prime examples of the way one of our family members is choosing to remove gender from sentences. I'll use Brad and myself in the example...if someone asks Brad, "does your wife do all the cooking in your household?" If he wanted to keep gender out of it he'd respond by saying, "Yes, they cook".  Example #2, someone asks Brad, does she walk the dog? He responds, "Yes, they walk the dog". As a result 99.9% of people would be confused. Questioning, who is "they"? Does Brad have more than one wife? Does his wife have a few personalities he's trying to acknowledge? It's confusing is it not? Yep, exactly how this family member was using his pronouns when referring to his girlfriend.

The end of the gender neutral pronoun discussion went like this, Brad and myself trying to "school" this young mind that is suddenly set on removing gender from his discussions. I refrained from screaming...'just say SHE...for goodness sake just say SHE!' Aren't you glad I refrained from yelling that? LOL! However, I did let him know his choice of removing the gender specific pronoun does create confusion and leads people to question too many things.  Therefore he might want to rethink his choice of gender neutrality. But I know he won't, it will continue. Which means I'll continue to cringe every time I talk to this particular family member at family gatherings.

In case anyone was wondering though, as for all of us in this household we are proud of our genders and will not be offended by the specification of our genders when talked about.

Me...a girl, I'm a she or a her. All girly pronouns apply!
Brad...a boy...He's a he or him...All manly pronouns apply!
Piper...a girl...She's rather prissy and a daddy's girl. All girly pronouns for her.
Landon...a boy...He's 150% boyish and a mama's boy. All boyish pronouns for him.